Ideal Attributes of Offering Support to individuals Coming Out

  • Unconditional warmth and care for the well being of homosexuals no matter what each individual chooses
  • A consistently empathetic response that asks “What would it be like if I had this characteristic, and how would I hope people might respond to me?”
  • Maturity around discussing sexuality generally and informed on the topic of homosexuality
  • Respect towards the values and beliefs of the individual
  • Foster and empower the individual’s voice and sense of agency
  • Periodic checking in to facilitate the individual in the storying and re-storying of the many experiences that may have previously gone unspoken, and the many new experiences related to the transition of coming out
  • An ethic to sit compassionately with the intimate and unfamiliar
  • Listening, Listening, Listening
  • A kind and caring response specifically to any disclosures of sexual/romantic attractions
  • Value commonly occurring homosexual strengths such as resiliency, a deep compassion for others who are different, and courage, as well as the specific strengths of the individual.
  • Keep what is shared with you confidential unless you have clear permission from the individual to share it